Why is it that single Muslim women in their late 20s/early 30s are finding it difficult to find prospective marriages?
Why is it that a Muslim woman cannot pursue her career/education, be financially stable and then marry?
Why is this permissible only for Muslim men?
Now my rant has stemmed from a recent event. My cousin got married, which is great, as the union of two people who love each other is always a joyous moment. It reminds everyone that humans can still love each other. The problem is (from the point of view of gossiping housewives) my cousin's husband's sister: a beautiful and a successful woman....but still unmarried. All because she decided to first pursue her education and reach financial stability. Now, all she gets are marriage proposals from divorced men with kids or over-40s just because she is over 30.
How is it possible that there are no unmarried Muslim men in their 30s? Do all Muslim men marry before their 30s? Why? Is it because they can't control their hormones? Or is it because Muslim women in the 30s are considered old because the majority of the 30-year-olds already have 2-3 kids? Why is there such a rush to marry in the early 20s, when people barely know themselves?
Don't get me wrong, I am not condoning all who marry early. Some couples, be it arranged or not, really do manage to create a loving household and still pursue their interests and support each other. But in a lot of couples I've seen so far, one of them (usually the woman) has to sacrifice their interests for the benefit of the family. And the cycle gets repeated once the children grow up: the daughter gets married in her early 20s and the son in the late 20s. And for all the single ladies in their 30s, there is practically zero men willing to marry them.
Furthermore, why is it that the first criteria for a woman is her physical beauty? What about her personality? The same goes when looking for a man. Why is it that the first three criterias are: physical attractiveness, bank account and family status? What happened at looking at the character of the man first? Or even better, why not check out the flaws? Wouldn't that be more interesting to know about rather than the good side? Everyone can show their best side, but would you be able to tolerate his bad side?
To conclude this immature rant, are there any modern real-life stories where a Muslim woman in her 30s married a Muslim man in his 30s and lived happily ever after?
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